Taking charge
I know I sounded gloomy last night. I felt that way then, but today is a new day. I have made some decisions and taken action. He is now 100% safe for showering, but is annoyed that I purchased the adaptive equipment. I don’t blame him for feeling this way; it irks me too, but I can now have piece of mind and he will get used to the equipment soon enough. Yaron already installed the new showerhead, and we’re good to go. I made sure to get the padded bench, because unlike me, he has no meat on his tush. He never did, but he used to have muscle.
I have hired someone to come in and fit some railings along the walls of the staircase leading to the basement. Gilly’s more than a little ticked off with me on this front. To demonstrate my understanding, I solemnly promised I’d respect the décor; after all, he fashioned the whole look using his artistic eye, creative mind, golden hands and lots of time and elbow grease. I’m just glad he expressed how much he cares, and that he actually can show me that he realizes what’s at stake. I find it quite interesting that he says he can’t see a thing (although he means he can’t make sense of what he sees), yet the visual beauty of his handiwork continues to be a top priority. This is a good sign!
We will go over to Rona together tomorrow to choose the nicest wooden (sturdy) railings we can find. I’ll have to use some ingenuity to make them slip proof with as little compromise to aesthetics as possible. I will buy some slip proof tape for the stairs as well, again with the utmost respect for the work he put in (truly a labour of love) to strip and stain them. I’m confident that we can create a safe staircase while retaining that woody charm. His basement is his haven, but we like to have him upstairs too. Accompanied or not, he will surely insist on using this staircase on a daily basis, so I have to get busy immediately, if not sooner. I’ll just do it in my spare time...
I’ll be with Gilly on Monday, and there is always someone here on Tuesday, so the first part of the week is covered. I will interview someone on Wednesday afternoon, and hopefully try him (or her) out on Thursday. I haven’t made a commitment, because I still have to hear back from Brad as to exactly how, if at all, the CSSS services could be expanded upon. I am also accepting suggestions from people who know of experienced care givers. I’d like there to be consistency that can be built upon or reduced as the need (or lack thereof) arises. It must be a good match, of course, so that Gilly feels comfortable and is safe. The person has to show some sort of initiative as well, so that Gilly could be stimulated, but not overwhelmed. Above all, his needs and wishes must be respected. So what I’m really looking for is an angel, I guess. I may be crazy, but I actually believe I will find one.
It is off to Susie and Joey’s for Shabbat dinner. I look forward to it.
I have hired someone to come in and fit some railings along the walls of the staircase leading to the basement. Gilly’s more than a little ticked off with me on this front. To demonstrate my understanding, I solemnly promised I’d respect the décor; after all, he fashioned the whole look using his artistic eye, creative mind, golden hands and lots of time and elbow grease. I’m just glad he expressed how much he cares, and that he actually can show me that he realizes what’s at stake. I find it quite interesting that he says he can’t see a thing (although he means he can’t make sense of what he sees), yet the visual beauty of his handiwork continues to be a top priority. This is a good sign!
We will go over to Rona together tomorrow to choose the nicest wooden (sturdy) railings we can find. I’ll have to use some ingenuity to make them slip proof with as little compromise to aesthetics as possible. I will buy some slip proof tape for the stairs as well, again with the utmost respect for the work he put in (truly a labour of love) to strip and stain them. I’m confident that we can create a safe staircase while retaining that woody charm. His basement is his haven, but we like to have him upstairs too. Accompanied or not, he will surely insist on using this staircase on a daily basis, so I have to get busy immediately, if not sooner. I’ll just do it in my spare time...
I’ll be with Gilly on Monday, and there is always someone here on Tuesday, so the first part of the week is covered. I will interview someone on Wednesday afternoon, and hopefully try him (or her) out on Thursday. I haven’t made a commitment, because I still have to hear back from Brad as to exactly how, if at all, the CSSS services could be expanded upon. I am also accepting suggestions from people who know of experienced care givers. I’d like there to be consistency that can be built upon or reduced as the need (or lack thereof) arises. It must be a good match, of course, so that Gilly feels comfortable and is safe. The person has to show some sort of initiative as well, so that Gilly could be stimulated, but not overwhelmed. Above all, his needs and wishes must be respected. So what I’m really looking for is an angel, I guess. I may be crazy, but I actually believe I will find one.
It is off to Susie and Joey’s for Shabbat dinner. I look forward to it.
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