May the treatments begin!
I reached Janet at the JGH this morning. Apparently Gilly should be starting treatment near the beginning of May. Dr. Sultanem is out of town until Thursday. He is the one who puts the wheels in motion. Early next week, Gilly should have the final markings for radiation done. He can begin receiving radiation late next week or the week after. She let me know that Dr. Kavan called just before me to ask what is taking so long. I was wondering how she knew my name and the whole story as soon as I called. It’s nice to know that he’s plugging for us.
Brad Kerzner from the CLSC arrived for his scheduled home visit today. This was arranged in response to a plea I made long ago for Gilly to receive whatever support the community has to offer. We met the social worker there over a month ago when Gilly had his stitches out, and I asked what was available in terms of professional help to assist Gilly in dealing with his circumstance on an emotional level.
Brad’s 9:30 A.M. visit was a follow-up to my initial request. Unfortunately, he called a few weeks back when I wasn’t home, so Gilly went ahead and made the appointment, not realizing the impact of my teaching schedule.
Gilly claims to like the guy, and believes he will be able to help. When I asked for some details, the information was vague. He made an appointment for May 11th for Brad to meet me (a Thursday; he now knows to ask for this magic non-teaching day). I asked, “Why does Brad want to meet me?” Gilly replied, “He wants to help you.” I reiterated what I told the original social worker both in person and on the phone (she called back again just to be sure): I said, “I want help for you, Gil. I can access this sort of support at Vanier if need be. I will rest easy if you have what you need.” He quietly answered, “I need you to have help.” How can I refuse the guy? I decided to stop balking at the idea and take whatever I can get.
I asked, “What did you do today? Were you outside? It was a magnificent day.” He said, “Yes. I walked the dog. We spent time together outside. I find it tires me out. I have trouble walking because my right leg drags. I just didn’t feel like doing much. I was feeling kind of yucky. I really can’t see either” I asked if being alone all day had something to do with it. He claims it did not. But I am a detective, so I probed further. “What was the best part of your day?” He answered, “The later part.” I asked why, knowing the answer, but still having to hear it: “Because you are here now.”
After reading the blog to Gilly, he insisted that being at home alone does not bother him. He siad leave that part in, because we did discuss it that way, but it really doesn't bother me. He wants you all to know that. It is his right side that gives him trouble, whether alone or not.
Perhaps it is only my guilt at leaving him for many hours on end that generates what Gilly sees as a skewed perspective. What a powerful emotion. My children would probably say I send it out (The famous Jewish guilt torture) even better than I receive it. Can't help it; it's home grown.
I finish teaching duties around mid-May or so. Then I can mange to do much of my work from home until June when I have an official break for the summer. CAN’T WAIT!!!
Brad Kerzner from the CLSC arrived for his scheduled home visit today. This was arranged in response to a plea I made long ago for Gilly to receive whatever support the community has to offer. We met the social worker there over a month ago when Gilly had his stitches out, and I asked what was available in terms of professional help to assist Gilly in dealing with his circumstance on an emotional level.
Brad’s 9:30 A.M. visit was a follow-up to my initial request. Unfortunately, he called a few weeks back when I wasn’t home, so Gilly went ahead and made the appointment, not realizing the impact of my teaching schedule.
Gilly claims to like the guy, and believes he will be able to help. When I asked for some details, the information was vague. He made an appointment for May 11th for Brad to meet me (a Thursday; he now knows to ask for this magic non-teaching day). I asked, “Why does Brad want to meet me?” Gilly replied, “He wants to help you.” I reiterated what I told the original social worker both in person and on the phone (she called back again just to be sure): I said, “I want help for you, Gil. I can access this sort of support at Vanier if need be. I will rest easy if you have what you need.” He quietly answered, “I need you to have help.” How can I refuse the guy? I decided to stop balking at the idea and take whatever I can get.
I asked, “What did you do today? Were you outside? It was a magnificent day.” He said, “Yes. I walked the dog. We spent time together outside. I find it tires me out. I have trouble walking because my right leg drags. I just didn’t feel like doing much. I was feeling kind of yucky. I really can’t see either” I asked if being alone all day had something to do with it. He claims it did not. But I am a detective, so I probed further. “What was the best part of your day?” He answered, “The later part.” I asked why, knowing the answer, but still having to hear it: “Because you are here now.”
After reading the blog to Gilly, he insisted that being at home alone does not bother him. He siad leave that part in, because we did discuss it that way, but it really doesn't bother me. He wants you all to know that. It is his right side that gives him trouble, whether alone or not.
Perhaps it is only my guilt at leaving him for many hours on end that generates what Gilly sees as a skewed perspective. What a powerful emotion. My children would probably say I send it out (The famous Jewish guilt torture) even better than I receive it. Can't help it; it's home grown.
I finish teaching duties around mid-May or so. Then I can mange to do much of my work from home until June when I have an official break for the summer. CAN’T WAIT!!!
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